I’m still writing about the ideas in my new career success coach book, Success Tweets: 140 Bits of Common Sense Career Success Advice, All in 140 Characters or Less. I have about 100 more blog posts to go. When I’m finished, you’ll have an in depth discussion on each of the 141 tweets in Success Tweets. You can get a free copy of the eBook at www.SuccessTweets.com. Hard copies of the book are available on Amazon.com and your local bookstore.
Today’s career success coach post in on Tweet 44…
Be an optimist. Believe that things will turn out well. When they don’t, don’t sulk. Learn what you can, use it next time.
There are two important pieces of career advice about optimism and life and career success in this tweet. First, optimists believe things will turn out well. Second, optimists see failure and defeat as temporary. They treat them as learning opportunities.
Have you seen the movie Remember the Titans? It’s a sports movie about an improbable situation based on a true story. Denzel Washington stars as the coach of the T. C. Williams High School Titans. Williams was a newly integrated high school in Alexandria Virginia in 1971. Denzel’s character, Coach Herman Boone was a black man chosen to be the head coach over a very popular coach who had been the head coach at the high school prior to it being integrated.
The team had a lot of good athletes. They were undefeated as they entered the State Championship game. Things didn’t go well in the first half. In the locker room at half time, Denzel makes a speech in which he congratulated the team on coming so far in such a short period of time. He tells them that win or lose he is proud of them. It seems as if he has given up. It sounds like a speech losing coaches give to teams after a game – not at half time.
One of the players speaks up. He challenges the coach. He says something like, “We were perfect when this game started. We’re still perfect until it’s over. I, for one, want to finish this game like we started it – perfect.” This impassioned speech rallies the team, and they win the game. It’s a feel good movie about a group of young men who learned how to pull together regardless of their differences.
And it makes the first point about optimists. Even when the coach seemed ready to give up, one player wouldn’t. He was an optimist. He believed they would win. His optimism was contagious. The team rallied and won. I don’t know if things went down exactly that way in that locker room, but that scene reinforces the power of believing things will turn out well.
If you don’t believe you can win, if you don’t believe you can create a successful life and career, you won’t. If you do believe, if you’re an optimist, you’re on the right path to winning and life and career success.
But believing is not enough. It will set you up for success, but you will still find times when you fail. That’s where the second piece of career advice in Tweet 44 in Success Tweets comes in. Don’t sulk when you fail or lose. Treat every failure and loss as a learning experience. Use failures and losses as a stepping stone to creating the life and career success you want and deserve.
I was frustrated early in my career. I saw other people getting promotions for which I thought I was better qualified. My first job in business was in the training department of a large Oil Company. I worked hard, did a good job – and kept getting passed over for promotion. The reasons were vague – “you’ve only been here a little while,” “the hiring manager thought the other person was a better fit,” “you need to polish up some of those rough edges.”
So I found another job; this time with a Chemical Company. I worked hard, did a good job, got good performance reviews – and no promotions. I was frustrated. In my heart of hearts, I knew I was as good or better than people who were moving ahead while I was standing still.
I decided that maybe more school would be the answer. I quit my job, and enrolled in a PhD program in Adult Education and Organizational Behavior at Harvard. Once I got there, I realized that the same thing happens in academia as happens in business. The hardest workers and best performers don’t always get rewarded and promoted.
I decided that I had an opportunity to use my situation — and my frustration — as a lab. I didn’t sulk. I chose to learn from my frustrations and failures. After all, I was at Harvard. I was surrounded by high performers – people who had achieved a lot at an early age, and seemed destined to achieve even more. I decided that maybe I should pay some attention to these folks.
I got one of those marble covered notebooks and made a list of all the people I admired at Harvard. Then I made a list of all the people in the companies where I had worked who got the promotions I didn’t. I made another list of the people I knew who I considered to be positive role models. I didn’t stop there. I started reading biographies of successful people. I created a page for each person. I wrote down the characteristics that I observed in these people. When I was finished, I had a notebook full of the characteristics I observed in successful people.
It was a long list. So I did kind of a human regression analysis on it. I started looking for patterns and groups of behaviors. When it was all said and done, I found four distinct characteristics that the successful people I had studied had in common.
- Had a clearly defined purpose and direction for their lives.
- Were committed to succeeding. They faced obstacles and overcame them.
- Were self confident. They knew they were going to succeed and continue to succeed as they went through life.
- Shared some basic competencies. They knew how present themselves in a favorable light. Other people were attracted to them and wanted to be around them. They were high performers. They were great communicators. They were good at building relationships.
If you’ve been paying attention, you’ve probably figured out that these are the ideas I cover in Success Tweets and what I’ve been blogging about for the past two months.
Once I finished my degree, I took a job with a very large pharmaceutical company in New York. I started applying the lessons I learned from observing successful people — and I began getting promotions and good assignments. I became the confidant of several senior executives and I began coaching up and comers in the company – teaching them the basic principles I had discovered by writing my observations in that marble covered notebook.
I also kept refining my ideas – making them easier for others to understand and apply. You never learn something as well as when you teach it. I became the most sought after internal coach in that company.
In 1988, I was faced with a decision. Accept a big promotion to Vice President, or strike out on my own. I decided that I have an entrepreneurial bent and chose the latter. I opened up a small career success coaching and speaking business. The idea was to reach even more people with what I knew about creating a successful life and career.
I tell this story not to pat myself on the back, but to illustrate the second point in today’s tweet: When things don’t turn out as you hope, don’t sulk. Learn what you can, use it next time.
The common sense career success coach point here is simple. Successful people are self confident and optimistic. Optimism means believing that things will turn out well, and more important, when they don’t, using the experience to learn and grow and do better next time. Follow the career advice in Tweet 44 in Success Tweets. “Be an optimist. Believe that things will turn out well. When they don’t, don’t sulk. Learn what you can, use it next time.” I’m big on optimism. My optimism has helped me create the career and life success I wanted. Your optimism can do the same for you.
That’s my take on the career advice in Tweet 44 in Success Tweets. What’s yours? Please take a few minutes to leave a comment sharing your thoughts with us. I’d really like to hear stories where you used the lessons you learned from setbacks and failures to build your career success. As always, thanks for reading.