Today is Monday, so this post is on self confidence.
I’ve mentioned Susan Jeffers’ The Little Book of Confidence in previous posts. I really like it – and it is really little – three inches by four inches. I often open it up when I am feeling a little down. Inevitably, I find something that raises my spirits.
Yesterday, I opened it to page 157 and found this:
"PAT YOURSELF ON THE BACK – The most negative thing you can do is to let your lower self berate you for not doing it ‘right’ or fast enough or whatever! The most positive thing you can do is pat yourself on the back for every little step you take."
I think this is some great common sense advice. It is very helpful to me. I work fast. I get a lot done quickly. However, I often underestimate the time it takes for me to complete a project. When this happens, I get frustrated and upset with myself. But when I read Dr. Jeffers advice, I realize that I should be giving myself credit for all that I get done, instead of bemoaning the fact that I would have liked to have gotten more done.
This perspective helps, not hinders, my self confidence.
This doesn’t mean that you should miss deadlines and not keep commitments to others and feel good about yourself because you tried. It does mean, however, that you should take a realistic look at your performance. If you are moving in the right direction – pat yourself on the back. This will help your self confidence.
There’s a fine line here. If you aren’t honest with yourself, you can become a self confident slacker – someone who doesn’t deliver on promises and commitments and still feels as if he or she is doing a great job. That’s not what I’m talking about in this post.
I do mean, however, that if you’re moving in the right direction, give yourself credit where credit is due. This will help your self confidence and help you achieve your career and life goals.
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