Fear, Courage and Self Confidence

Today is Monday – Happy Memorial Day in the US – so this post is on self confidence.

Mel Richardson is a friend of mine.  He writes a very interesting blog.  You can find it at http://wwwwealthbuildingstrategiescom.blogspot.com.  In his post on Tuesday, May 22, he wrote about fear and self confidence.  Here are a few of the things he had to say.

Courage Despite the Fear – Mel Richardson

“We all have a fear of something. There are people who go through life with a fear of this and a fear of that. Fear is a paralyzing state. I was reading a book by Lewis Timberlake, (motivational speaker), and there was a quote that said, ‘Fear is a dark room where negatives are developed.’

“Doesn’t that sound right? Imagine a closed in damp, dirty, dark, musty closet where fear resides. What can possibly come from a situation like that except fear. Fear is not knowing what lies ahead. When our way seems dark and we are not sure which direction we should take there is a sense of dread and fear. Fear is generated when we are not familiar with our surroundings

“If we make an attempt to journey outside of our comfort zones then fear sets in, because we are not accustomed to the new environment. We are challenged to do something new and take some risks and give up our old habits and old ways of thinking. Can this possibly, maybe set us up for failure?

“I’ve also heard someone say we were born with two fears; the fear of falling and the fear of loud noises. All other fears are learned. Hmm? Can we unlearn those fears?

“When we actually get a picture of who we are and what we can become it frightens us. So we sabotage our success with unbelief, negative thoughts, and we embrace our comfort zone.

“What do you fear? What’s holding you back? Are you in a dark room watching all the negatives develop? Are you afraid of who you are and what you can become? Does fear have you in its icy grip?

“If so I would say it’s time to move up and out, past the comfort zone. It’s time to move on to pursue your greatness and fulfill your destiny. It’s time to face your fears and unlock your potential.

“Be of good courage. Courage is not the absence of fear but the ability to act despite the fear. Can’t get past the fear? Then encourage yourself. Your words have power.

“Say good things to yourself. Say, ‘You Can Do It, Come on, let’s go’, Say things that get you motivated and excited. Is there a motivating and uplifting song you can listen to? An abundance of wealth is waiting for you on the other side of fear.

“Think of the awesome reasons that you are pursuing your great dreams. Think of what you want to accomplish. 

“Now I say, Come on, You Can Do It! It’s time to move. It’s time to go forth and make things happen. Nothing can stop you.”

Mel makes some great common sense points – in this post and in his blog.  I particularly like what he has to say about courage.  I agree – we all are afraid sometime.  Those of us who are self confident have the courage to act, despite our fears.  Mel acts.  He puts himself and his thoughts out there in his blog. 

The common sense point here?  Face your fears.  Act on them.  Become the self confident career and life star you are meant to be.

That’s it for today.  Thanks for reading.  Log on to my website www.BudBilanich.com for more common sense.  Check out my other blog: www.CommonSenseGuy.com for common sense advice on leading people and running a small business.

I’ll see you around the web, and at Alex’s Lemonade Stand.

Bud

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