I am a big Sam Parker fan. He really gets it about life and career success. The other day, I came across his five tips for managing our bad egos – the part of us that can really destroy the relationships we work so hard to build.
I devote 20 tweets in my career advice book Success Tweets to building and maintaining strong relationships. Sam’s ideas on ego are great career success advice. Check them out…
Be No Ego — Sam Parker
We need to get out of the way of ourselves…dumping that obtrusive ego…remembering that our job isn’t to hold onto our position (double meaning there). Our job is to improve things.Imagine a world without ego (the bad ego…the inflated sense of self-significance ego). There’d be no…
- Toes to step on
- Feelings to hurt
- Fair shares to grab
- Territory to defend
- Fault to allocate
- Back to watch
- Last words to get
- Ideas to hold back
- Embarrassment to bear
- Battles to win
- Knowledge to prove
- Entitlement to have
- Encouragement to withhold
- Credit to seek
- Grudges to hold
- Jealousy to feel
- Revenge to take
- Hidden meanings to construe
Things would get done so much faster and so much more enjoyably. Here’s what you need to do to keep your bad ego in check…
- Be humble. Understand you are a small part of the world. Service and patience should be your top priorities.
- Be teachable. Focus on what you can learn, rather than showing what you know. Remember that almost everything you know began with the work of someone else.
- Listen more. Make every effort to truly understand what others are saying (beyond just words). It makes for better connections. Allow a small gap of silence before responding. Ask questions and listen some more.
- Appreciate people. Enjoy others’ contributions. Don’t squelch ideas or defend territory. Encourage people more.
- Relax. Let go of the need to be right or win every time.
Sam has taken this advice and put it on pocket cards called Speak No Ego. Be No Ego. You can get the pocket cards at http://www.GiveMore.com/BeNoEgo. I bought five packs – 50 cards. I will send a Speak No Ego. Be No Ego card to the first 50 people who send me an email (Bud@BudBilanich.com) requesting one. Don’t forget to include your snail mail address so I’ll know where to send the card. Sorry, but I have to limit this offer to my readers in the USA. The cost of overseas postage is too much for this free offer.
The career success coach point here is simple common sense. Successful people build strong, lasting, mutually beneficial relationships with the important people in their lives. Unchecked ego can ruin the relationships you’ve worked so to build. Sam Parker offers five great pieces of career advice on reigning in your ego: 1)Be Humble, 2) Be teachable, 3) Listen More, 4) Appreciate People, and 5) Relax. If you apply these five pieces of career success advice in your work and life, you’ll be on your way to building the strong relationships that will lead to your life and career success.
That’s the career advice I found in Sam Parker’s thoughts on ego. What do you think? Please take a minute to share your thought with us in a comment. As always, I really appreciate you taking the time to read my daily musings on life and career success. I value you.
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